I have real anger issues at the moment and although it sounds stupid I don't really know why. I know people say well you have a right to be angry, maybe but for how long. How long should you be angry at life for? Should I have counselling? Ive never really found talking non stop about life helps, it just reminds me of what I feel should be, and what the reality is. Anyway, I don't have it most of the time, in fact I'm a pretty calm sort of person usually and perhaps that's the problem. Just recently my pointy finger has been out pointing hard and jabbing the air, I feel cross, in fact I'm bloody seething. I want to bang the table hard with my fist and shout to the words Listen. To. Me. but what am I saying, anything at all? I dont think I have anything of value to add anywhere much right now, and having just said that Ive hit the nail firmly on the head. Its all about value, I dont have any and I dont feel I can get it back any time soon.
Thanks for sharing. Here are some of my kind-of-random thoughts, for what they're worth...
ReplyDeleteAnger is definitely a powerful force. Not as powerful as fear, but it's up there. At the end of the day, the important question is: how can we channel these forces?
I personally am much better at channeling my fear than my anger. I've learned through mistakes and experiences that fear is better to be resolved than avoided, and that fear is mainly a matter of dealing with uncertainty and insecurity. You can actually accomplish a lot if you tap into your fear.
Anger is literally a different beast. Anger can not be avoided. Anger doesn't stem from uncertainty - it stems from disappointment, from unmet expectations, and from a lack of control to satisfy these expectations. It's the emotional resort when we don't get what we want.
I get angry often. I'm trying to learn how to cope with my anger, by (a)expecting less from myself and from others, (b)dissipating it through creative means, like writing, guitar playing, etc., and (c) losing myself in my work, which tends to boost my mood and my self-esteem.
But at the end of the day, easier said than done, and my temper is still a work-in-progress (as my wife will tell you)...
Do you feel like blogging has been a helpful outlet for you, or no?